Cheryl Burke recently shared her painful childhood experiences during an episode of the podcast “Oldish.” The former “Dancing with the Stars” competitor opened up about being sexually abused by a family friend when she was young, revealing that both she and her stepsister went through this trauma.
Burke explained how the abuse came to light thanks to her sister’s best friend, who told her mother. This led to the perpetrator being sentenced, although Burke noted that he did not serve a life sentence as he should have. She bravely took the stand and testified at just nine years old.
“I felt like I was the one to blame,” Burke expressed. She described feeling confused and alone in the courtroom, where her mother was not allowed to accompany her. The emotional toll was immense, as she struggled with feelings of guilt and self-doubt.
Burke also reflected on how she internalized this trauma, leading to unhealthy thoughts. “The quiet version of me was dangerous because the voices in my head got louder,” she shared, revealing the depth of her anguish.
When discussing the long-lasting effects of her experience, Burke humorously referred to herself as a “professional disassociator.” Despite the challenges, she feels she has made progress in her healing journey. She acknowledged that it is a continual process rather than a one-time event.
In seeking closure, Burke emphasized the importance of understanding that her abuser was sick. However, she was clear to state that this should not be mistaken as forgiveness for his actions.
Her journey toward healing grew stronger when she learned that she was not alone—that many other victims came forward about the same abuser. This realization helped lift the weight of guilt off her shoulders.
Burke also addressed the broader societal issues surrounding the reporting of abuse. She expressed concern that too many victims feel they cannot share their stories, fearing that they will be blamed or gaslit. The issues surrounding the statute of limitations also complicate matters for many survivors.
She cautioned that there are no easy fixes or quick solutions to healing from such trauma. It’s a challenging and painful process that requires serious work to confront and overcome the past. Burke emphasized that while alternative treatments might provide temporary relief, true healing comes from facing the pain directly.
If you or someone you know has been affected by sexual abuse, there is help available. Text “STRENGTH” to 741-741 to reach a certified crisis counselor.
