Howard Smith’s Memories of Johnny Carson: A Friendship Through Challenges
Howard Smith often found himself worrying about his friend and neighbor, the legendary TV host Johnny Carson. Smith recalls, “He used to smoke a lot—up to three packs a day.” They would play tennis, after which Carson would light up a cigarette, despite Smith’s gentle nudges to reconsider his habit. Eventually, after much encouragement, Carson recognized the harms of smoking and quit, largely thanks to his fourth wife, Alexis Maas.
In his recent memoir, “My Friend Johnny: The Last 20 Years of a Beautiful Life with Johnny Carson and Friends,” Smith reveals the intimate moments of their friendship. Despite battling his health issues, including a diagnosis of emphysema in 2002, Carson managed to live smoke-free for the last 18 years of his life. Tragically, he passed away in 2005 at the age of 79.
Smith, who describes himself as someone disconnected from show business—running one of the world’s largest software companies—believed this allowed Carson to trust him. “I wanted people to know the true John. Many articles were unkind, and that wasn’t the Johnny I knew,” he said.
Their friendship blossomed over many tennis matches. Smith became increasingly concerned over Carson’s smoking, leading to serious discussions about quitting. “John had a stubborn side. I’d joke with him a lot about it, and I think that’s why we got along so well,” said Smith.
In 2002, Carson publicly stated he was “doing well,” but Smith paints a different picture. He noticed Carson’s breathing issues worsening, yet Carson tried not to burden others with his struggles.
Smith reflects on their last dinner together in early 2005, describing it as “the last supper.” During that night, Carson was unusually animated, recounting stories and making them laugh like never before. “It was as if he wanted to share his best moments with us,” Smith remembered.
The friendship was also marked by small, kind gestures from Carson, who quietly supported several charities, including those helping veterans. “He truly loved life and wanted to give back without the spotlight,” Smith shared.
Today, Smith hopes to shine a light on a different side of Carson, one that shows the heart behind the humor. In his final years, Carson embraced life beyond the screen, exploring interests like astronomy and learning new languages. He found joy in simple moments, whether playing cards or marveling at the stars.
Smith still cherishes their shared experiences, especially that first day they decided to play tennis. “I had no idea then what a special bond we were building,” he reflected, grateful for the friendship they shared.
