A woman recently turned to the online forum Reddit to express her feelings of being overshadowed by her fiancé’s devotion to their dog, a pit bull, especially as she prepares for an upcoming surgery. In her post, she shared her frustration after her fiancé suggested she stay in a hotel to recover instead of considering boarding the dog for a few days, which she believed would create a calmer environment at home.
Starting off by emphasizing her love for dogs, she explained that she feels her needs often take a backseat to those of the pet. She loves the dog, describing it as affectionate but also very energetic, acknowledging that it’s seen as a family member. However, she voiced her concern about how much his life revolves around the dog’s needs. If the dog feels clingy or anxious, they often have to change their plans.
Adding to her disappointment, she recalled how her fiancé suggested the hotel solution, stating that it would be too much for him to care for both her and the dog during her recovery. Facing a significant surgery, she felt apprehensive about the dog’s energetic behavior and how it might hinder her recovery. Instead, she proposed that they board the dog temporarily, a solution that had been used in the past when her fiancé had work obligations.
To her surprise, he reacted negatively to the idea of boarding the dog, expressing that he would never do so unless absolutely necessary. His reasoning was that he would be sending the dog for boarding right before and after her surgery for work commitments.
Feeling a mix of emotions, she admitted to sensing a lack of priority in her own needs compared to those of the dog. As she sought advice from the Reddit community, many readers supported her feelings, suggesting that she was justified in wanting her needs considered alongside the dog’s. They emphasized that her recovery from surgery should not be treated lightly.
In an update, she expressed her appreciation for the overwhelming number of supportive comments, which helped validate her feelings. While she is not ready to take drastic measures, the situation has made her reevaluate the dynamics of their relationship and contemplate future conversations about her needs and priorities.
